On Support & Speaking Your Partner’s Love Language

Supporting your partner or anyone you wish to have a thriving relationship with can be a very important part of establishing a sense of trust and cultivating love. We chatted briefly with artist Nate Austin on the support of his wife far before the ring was a thing and had a chance to hear from a male perspective how he actively chooses to honor his wife. It’s refreshing to see how various couples do life together and important for us to share nuggets on how we can better cultivate long-lasting partnership. We hope to have the Austins together on a future episode of the RBL Podcast but for now, enjoy a few gems.

Q: So Nate, tell me how did you know your wife was the one?

N: Well, I’m an artist, and sometimes the right side of my brain is dominant at times. I’d expressed to my then, not even girlfriend, that I was interested in art. I’d let her know that I longed to become a full-time artist and that I wanted to take my art career seriously. So, on a date, we went to the Columbus Art Festival. I got to talking with artists and feeling inspired and she saw this.

I was speaking with another black artist about his process, how he works, and how he thinks yet out of the corner of my eye, I could hear her off to the side asking the artist’s partner questions. She was taking notes, asking about pricing for the booth, registration dates, where to purchase the booth set up materials, how many pieces to display, average daily attendance and so much more. Nicole had no clue that I was listening to her as I’m still speaking with the artist about his work. I knew she was invested in my future and was supportive instinctively; the kicker was she wasn’t even my girlfriend at the time.

Q: What is one thing you do to honor your wife?

N: I’d say one thing I do to honor my wife is giving her my best, as much as possible. The attitude of giving my best causes me to constantly reflect on what I’m doing, how I’m showing or communicating love, and how it’s being received. I guess it makes me more attentive.


Q: What is one thing you do to keep your relationship strong?

N: I speak her love language! We have fun, we laugh like kids, and we are truly best friends. Sometimes I tend to express love the way I want it expressed like through gift giving or words. She loves those gestures but her love languages are acts of service and quality time. So, I’ll plan dates or make sure to give her breakfast in bed and even pamper her sometimes; not too much though haha.

Q: Tell me, how long have you and your wife been together/married?

N: We’ve been together four years and married one year.

Thank you Nate for sharing a bit about your love with us here at RBL. As artists, entreprenuers, and individuals in general the support of a partner can truly be transformative so we hope to dive more into what that looks like as a creative spouse in the near future. You can check out Nate’s work at https://www.artbynfa.com/ or on instagram @artby_nateaustin